As It Was in the Beginning," p. 35, Question Number 2

                       


          Esther was desperate to go back to her father's tepee.She wanted to escape from the mission house.But her homesickness ended when her childhood mate Laurence expressed his love to her.And she thought she had found her true love.She decided not to go back to her own people.She accepted and loved him with all her heart and soul.She believed in every single word and every single promises that he made.She never thought he would ever betray her.She started dreaming of a new life with a new hope.But her happiness didn't last for long.It all faded away when Father Paul refused Laurence's proposal of marrying Esther.She accidentally overheard the argument between both of them.Laurence demanded an explanation from father Paul at first,why he should not marry Ester.Father Paul started convincing his nephew afterwards.He started questioning Esther's race,her ethnicity.He compared her with a caged animal.He said her blood is a very bad mixture and she can never be trusted. Ester couldn't hear any more.Never in her wildest dream she had thought the person she worshiped her entire life would say such cruel words about her.She was    broken,shattered.She saw her lover was in agreement with the old man.she felt disgusted,deceived.She realized all the love and kindness they have showed through the years was fake.

                                                 Birth order and our lives (Topic # 2)

      Birth order plays a very important role in our life.It affects our lifestyle.As an example,the youngest child often gets to live a carefree life.They don't have much responsibility or family pressure on them.They never feel the urge to learn and do things on their own because they always have their older siblings or their parent to depend upon.They are also considered the happiest ones.They always have their parents attention and care.They can turn up to their elder siblings when they are in trouble.That's why they get to lead a tension free life.The eldest child has the most difficult life,because he has the responsibility of his entire family.He is also expected to take care of his younger siblings.He tries hard to be a good role model for them.He often struggles to deal with the high expectation from his parents.The middle ones have the most attractive lifestyle.As their parents are less strict and easy on them they get to live life on their own way.They don't bother much about the rules and regulation.They are less worried about their performance at home or at school.

                                       How your birth order can affect your personality

     Birth order is the place or rank you get according to your age after you are born in a family.You might be the only child,oldest child,middle child,or the youngest child .These birth orders often help us develop some certain qualities among us.According to the author Lucille K. Forer birth order plays a very important role in how a child sees himself,how he connects with his parents,how other siblings see him and how he reacts.

      The first child usually gets the chance to learn and copy from his parents,which helps him to develop a parental quality in him.He thinks that he has the closest relation with his parents and adults in his family.The parents often have higher expectation from their oldest child.Even the eldest child himself tends to think that he is better and way more mature than the rest of his siblings.
 
       The second child never gets as much attention as the first or the youngest child.After the birth of the first child the parents get more relaxed.As a result the later children gets some advantages.He feels less pressured and independent.He learns how to deal with his elder and younger siblings.

       The youngest child is always dependent on his parents and elder siblings.He thinks that he is less capable than the others.He doesn't even feel the urge to do things on his own because he knows there is always someone on his family who'll come to the rescue.

        Finally,it's the only child.He doesn't have to worry much about his position.He has no one to compete with.He gets all the attention from his parents,feels lonely at times and learns how take care of himself when the parents are not around.He is more likely the oldest child.

        I mostly agree with the author's description on each children.I can totally relate with what she has to say about our birth order when I compare it with my family.However,i don't think it's necessary that a person will always react according to his birth order.Sometimes the eldest can be the most irresponsible one.Sometimes it's the youngest who is taking care of his entire family! It depends on the circumstances.
     
     
   

                                                                       My family
Hey ! My name is Joyita. I'm the youngest kid in my family.my family is pretty big.We are five sisters and one brother.My brother is the eldest.He is married and has two beautiful daughters.As the only son of our family he had a lot of responsibility from the very beginning.But he actually hasn't done enough to be called the most responsible one.Then i have my eldest sister.she comes right after my brother.She lives in Michigan.she was married at a very early age.so I didn't get enough time to spend wit her.When i first came in USA I used to stay with her family.First few month i spent with her was OK  Then i started feeling uncomfortable.She is really bossy! Always telling us what to do and what to not.She also can be very rude and mean at times.My middle two sisters are completely different than her.they are the heart of our family.Fun loving,easy going,independent and also very responsible towards family.I always enjoyed their company.My last (fourth) sister is the most interesting one.We both came in USA together.We share almost everything.There was a time when we both used to fight like cats and dogs!But since we came here in USA she became very protective of me. Sometimes she gets mad at me.She yells, why don't you learn to do things by yourself ?You're old enough to do some regular household chores.I say OK I'll give it a try ! But I always end up messing around.She screams again ,you're not used to do all these stuff.You better just go and sit at the corner,and let me do my thing.She makes me laugh :P She cares about everyone but don't want to show it.last but not the least ,me!I'm the most loved,pampered as well as spoiled and irresponsible person in my family.I know i am all grown up now.But even at the age of 20 I'm still dependent upon my parents.